Q In spite of doing “everything right” my life just didn’t work out the way I dreamed. I went to the best college and grad school, and while my job is very fulfilling, it doesn’t pay that well. Also I’m in my late 40s but I never found the right guy so I remain unmarried and childless. My best friend, on the other hand, has everything I ever wanted even though on paper the cards seemed stacked against her. She went to a very small college with no reputation, has no master’s degree, yet she makes at least twice my salary. Even though she’s been overweight her whole life, she landed a great guy and is happily married with a child.
I think what brought this all to a head is that they bought the vacation home of my (unrealistic) dreams and now all my best friend talks about is the new home and the unbelievably lavish remodeling they’re doing. Lately, it’s all I can do not to scream, “Stop shoving evidence of your perfect life in my face!”
The thing is, she’s a great person and it’s not her fault her life worked out and mine didn’t. How do I stop my jealousy from destroying a 20-year friendship? — Jealous
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